Hey y’all I’m Stephen ((left in the bottom pic)18 he/him) and this is my husband Elijah(right)19 he/him they/them) and as of December 2nd we were kicked out of his abusive mother’s household. I had been living with him and his family since September after being kicked out of my transphobic grandmother’s home, and from that point me and him had both worked hard to find and maintain jobs and attend school whilewe saved enough for our own place. His mother was extremely mentally/emotionally and financially abusive. She withheld his money that she owed and constantly raised the rent that we were both paying. Despite her collectively getting 400$ a month from the both of us, free labor in the form of child care for his younger sibling, forcing Eli to do all of her schoolwork for HER own bachelors degree, and him and I being the only ones to buy groceries and toiletries for the house as well as cook the majority of meals for the family of 5 living the apartment, she still kicked us out. From weeks prior she had been threatening to kick us out if we didn’t obey her and bend to her will, she has untreated Bipolar Disorder and has refused all attempts of therapy Eli had begged her to take.
She was extremely manipulative, controlling and extremely paranoid that anyone who told her no or asserted any agency for them self was her “ enemy “. She is also violently trasphobic and would constantly misgender me behind my back to my husband under the guise of it being “ impossible for me to be homophobic[read: transphobic because her dumbass can’t differentiate the two] because I was there for Eli when he transitioned “ which is a boldface lie ( she tried to subject him to conversion therapy when he first came out ).
Even if she were to take us back in (which is HIGHLY unlikely) the environment in which we both lived in was too toxic and unstable to stay in much longer
Eli suffered major mental breakdowns, psychotic episodes and suicidal thoughts and ideations while living with her ( as did I but to a lesser extent )
As of December 3rd we’ve been living in a DHS adults families without children assessment shelter facility: here’s our room.
The accomandtions we were provided were minimal at best ( one roll of toilet paper between the two of us, two moth bitten ‘comforters’ and thin white sheets, two small bars of facial soap. ) We can’t comfortably use the shower faucalities on site seeing that we are both the youngest and only trans occupiants. Even if we did decide to take the risk of showering, the showers are broken and won’t be repaired for some time.
Safety is a major issue as our lock is currently BROKEN ( despite asking for it to be fixed for three days ) and we live next to an violent domestic abusive couple that the faculity’s security refuses to deal with. Fights are commonplace as most of the other occupants are hostile at best.
Not only is safety an issue but we are responsible for providing our own food ( all food is provided is frozen and inedible ) and our own transportation. We have currently been eating one meal a day as a result. My partner has lost weight as a result of our stay. We have trying our best but given that we have taken work and school to figure out housing and fulfill the requirements necessary for our housing and benefits application ( attending appointments that take an average of 6 hours a time ) we have been unable to work at our minimum wage and seasonal jobs and been dependent on our non existent savings
As of last night 12/14/18 we were found ineligible for a permentant shelter transfer due to the social service investigators failing to preform a proper investigation of our prior housing.Because of this, we have to start the process over again and stay in this unsafe, hostile environment for another 10 days. We will have to go through the same proceedings again and reaply and start the process over.
My partner was laid off from work from not being able to attend recently, and now I’m the sole provider for our family. I get paid on a bi-weekly basis and hardly make enough to keep us afloat. Even so, I won’t be paid for another two weeks. We’re asking for help and assistance getting through the week, covering food and transportation costs for our appointments, amenities and toiletries, and various fees that apply to the application process, (documentation requests, printing at the public library, doctors visit copays, etc.)
Even if you can’t donate sharing this post will greatly help our chances of recieving help. Thank you for reading ❤️❤️❤️
Im really sorry i have to keep making these but all of my other posts are loosing traction and me and my partner need help now more than ever so please help if you can!
Reblogging again to let y’all im starting to document all that’s been going on since we started staying at this shelter including more pictures and info and I’ll be tagging it #my dhs if anyone wants to keep up with our situation.
THESE BASTARDS ARE TRYING MY SHIT AGAIN
This is the SECOND goddamn time they’ve found us ineligible due to their own fucking incompetence. We’ve provided multiple documents proving my housing history prior to New York and they couldn’t be bothered to actually verify it. The first ineligibility when we went to speak to an attorney we found that they didn’t even look through our folder and read our documents that we provided. She literally opened the folder and said “ oh it’s right here “ like what in the actual fuck. Now they jumped the gun and sent us this second notice 2 days before the end of the 10 day investigation period when litterally last night they called my prior residence and verified I lived there. Now we’re going to have to go through a 3rd cycle and stay in this shit hole because no one at the DHS can do their damn jobs!
